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I am increasingly seeing men argue against the idea that words are violence by referencing moments of being physically attacked. Fair enough, but I’d like to call on my experiences as a woman. I’ve been sexually assaulted. I’ve also experienced emotionally abusive behavior, particularly the dynamics of narcissistic abuse. My experience of a physical attack and emotional abuse has led me to a different conclusion. Words can be weaponized. True, an offhand remark may be hurtful, but not physical violence. However, emotional abuse isn’t a quick remark. It is a long-term matter that causes neurological changes that have negative effects on the body. The abuser doesn’t need to lift a hand. Long-term emotional abuse causes physiological changes and serious health matters, such as autoimmune responses. In evaluating whether words can be violence, it is import to consider power dynamics, repetition, and severity. Most speech isn’t violence, but there are circumstances when it is. An understanding of these dynamics is important when the law is involved.

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